© Linda Davick
My sister Aggles has rented a cabin near Blowing Rock, NC, for Mom, herself, and me. She's reserved it for three nights, and I'll fly into NC to join them. This will take place in mid September during the full moon, as Mom loves watching the moon. But this means Aggles will have to drive in the car by herself with Mom for 5 or 6 hours there, and 5 or 6 hours back.
From: Linda
Sent: Tuesday, August 19, 2008 3:54 PM
To: Aggles
About the trip with Mom: There's time to reconsider if you're not sure about driving that far with Mom. I already have my ticket, and you've already made the deposit, but we can deal with those things. We want to have fun. The place you have found sounds FANTASTIC, but Aggles, you are not Mother Theresa, and driving 5 or 6 hours with Mom in the car is a job for M. Theresa. So let me know if you're having doubts and we can work out something else that's easier on you and Mom.
From: Aggles
Date: August 19, 2008 4:01:41 PM
To: Linda
... Not sure why you think I’m not Mother Teresa.
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From: (Anonymous)
Date: August 20, 2008 5:49:30 PM
To: Linda
... Please tell me how we're going to manage old old age and sickness. Are we going to have a commune and fire shotguns at approaching bands of medical invaders, or are we going to hope that we will not live to a ripe old age. Give this some thought so we can get ready. Should we start adopting children (our future caregivers) today? I am not a nurse. In case you didn't know, I am not a nurse. Are you?
From: Linda
Sent: August 20, 2008 6:11 PM
To: (Anonymous)
No, I'm not a nurse either. But don't worry. I know someone a little younger who's a lot like Mother Theresa.
13 comments:
who's the one a little younger? could i sign up for the commune? Is that picture of a nut nurse from Tennessee? You probably want to be alone with your mom. But could I meet you and visit Virginia in Asheville? I haven't been driving through East Tennessee enough lately.
Wow, nice cabin.
I clicked some of the photos and was startled by how green the woods are, compared to the dull shades of Southern California.
Your mom is lucky to have daughters who include her in treats like this.
That is a beautiful place, Linda. It's a great place for all of you to spend time together :)
Dealing with aging parents has made a quick stroke or heart attack look like the way to go. Until then, I hope to live in a compound with a few friends that I can tolerate. I have vowed to not have a yard by the time I'm 80, should I last that long. Or I could rent a cabin and wander off into the woods...
I love Blowing Rock.
hey I know a nurse in Tennessee too.
that is so funny, sally! we could all live in a compound with "Nurse Ratched"
Two such wonderful daughters ~ I can't wait for the photos and blog posts!
Even I would need to take frequent meditation breaks.
M. Theresa: I can't believe you left a comment on my blog. I have a question for you. Let's say you've been driving the car with your mom beside you for a couple hours. You know it's past time for a meditation break. Would you pull off the road, or would you keep driving while you meditate in order to cut down on driving time?
It depends on how you feel in the moment. If you are able to meditate while you drive, good for you. I tried but found it extremely difficult even with no one else in the car. But if you really can't focus and are about to snap, how much better for you, your mom, your sister, and the other drivers on the road if you just pull over for a few moments to pull yourself together. (If you and your sister are driving together, you could take turns walking away for a few minutes.) Even if you have to pull over for 5 minutes once an hour, isn't that better than being a nervous wreck the whole time? And while you're driving: I found it helpful just to visualize a peaceful color blue around -- not just my own car -- but every vehicle on the road and the road itself. Remember you and your mother and the road and the other cars are all in this together. Have a nice time with your mother. Godspeed.
For future reference, wouldn't a cabin at Cloudland Canyon be closer and easier?
Mother Theresa: Thank you for your comments above. I'm sure I'll have more questions for you. I hope I'll be able to find you.
I highly recommend cultivating younger friends.
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